Getting married is conforming, so don't pretend otherwise

A friend of mine is having an "imaginary wedding" on Facebook with her fiance, the event is in Greece (how nice of it's really happening there!), and she and fiance are planning each others bachelor bash and bachelorette nights.

Anyways, she asked for some help to organise the bash with some of us on FB and anyways, I mentioned that this is the first time I know of a bride organising the groom's bachelor party, and that usually the bride's busy being suspicious that the groom and his friends are up to no good. Another person commented that it's because they are.

And one lady stepped in and said "And why be conventional? Thats for them dull brides all worried about dresses and flowers and table settings ...I say put the fun back into getting married ..poo poo on convention !! lol" . So I said, I didn't agree with that part and my friend said that's coz I had a cool wedding (teeheeee).

But I'm thinking, the institution of marriage itself is conventional. If you look at it that way. Getting married is confirming to religions, to cultures, to traditions...and it is a contract that you're supposed to honour until the end of life or the relationship. So I don't understand what's so unconventional about a wild bash thrown for a wedding?

Many have had great, out of the norm wedding receptions, some even eloped to avoid all the event organising and other people dictating how it should be. But after all that, people who get married are still conforming, still being conventional.

And all these women pretending to sound cool by acting like they don't care what their men do at the bachelor bash is just plain lying (or are secretly hoping to bonk the male stripper (eeeuw eeeuw eeeeeeuuuwww) at their bachelorette; probably also because the guy they chose to be stuck with for life are not that hot.

Sad, really. And then pretend they're the coolest bride-to-be by not giving a toss about what their future hubbies do at the bachelor bash. C'mon, if it turned into an orgy, would you still like him? Hahahahaaaa!!! What a crock of shit.

Then 2 years later some strange chick with fake boobs came with a toddler, who was conceived on his bachelor bash. That's a hoot man!!! So I want to see how cool these "unconventional" women will be then.

If anyone who wants to get married has the slightest amount of respect and real love for their partners, the bachelor / bachelorette will be a party held together, a pre-wedding bash if you would. I dunno bout other people but hubby and I are really close, he's my best friend, my companion, my party buddy, my traveling partner, my sidekick, my hero, my partner in crime - literally the other half of my soul. So getting married is not really the end of a supposed great life as a bachelor/ single woman who could do whatever the heck he/ she wants. It's the start of a better one, so why not celebrate together?

Which brings me to the typical male idea of marriage, that it's the end of life for the guy as we know it. I mean, if you like your bachelorhood so much, why bother getting married? If you need someone to cook, clean and have sex with you regularly - get a maid and a regular hooker. Not too hard innit?

Well, I suppose everyone's self esteem is built differently. There are women who probably don't really give a shit if their men cheated on them as long as he comes back to them at the end of the day, women that don't bother being conventional and think about dresses, table settings, flowers, etc for their wedding (that's what wedding planners are for, duh, you just approve stuff). There are women who are absolute control freaks, and there are women with absolutely no imagination. There are people who don't know the meaning of conventional and conform time and time again to what society deems is the right way to celebrate love and the end of singledom.

At the end of the day, it all boils down to how happy you want to be prior to your wedding day and how happy you want to be after the wedding party, when it's over and you can rest easy thinking, this is my soulmate. I didn't lose anything by getting hitched.

And to those who disagree, don't get married. Easy. Don't conform. After all, all us married people are conventional and don't have a sex life. Ha.

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