The divorce
16th July, 11.37am.
I am officially single again. I never thought that would happen to me, but it did. And as surreal as it felt, letting go of my past life, it really happened.
He does not want me in his life anymore, and he has moved on to another. And thankfully, I have moved on as well.
It is only appropriate that the decade long journey should come to an end, although there is nothing else to bond us together, ever. There are no children, no keepsakes, no home, only memories and a cat.
And the cat is quite possibly the only thing that I have well and truly lost due to the separation.
I hope the new one will find it in his heart to adopt my child, and love him as his own. Unlikely, but there is always hope.
I have made a promise to myself and to the universe, that I will never abandon or leave behind another pet, I have made a promise to the cat that I will love and take care of him forever. But circumstances do not seem to permit the latter.
Coming back to the divorce, what have I learned from this experience? I have learned that relationships are hard work. Love alone does not suffice. Love is the major part, it trumps everything. But it can go wrong. There is no such thing as unconditional love when it comes to partners, husband and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends.
If we let things slide, sweep problems under the carpet, refuse to communicate or don't communicate our issues, needs, hopes and wants properly, things will go wrong. It is very basic, how to make a relationship work. Communication, respect, friendship (because you have to like being around each other), lust and of course, love. Of all these, only love can't be explained or elaborated.
I hope if I ever get married again it will be for real, and forever.
I am officially single again. I never thought that would happen to me, but it did. And as surreal as it felt, letting go of my past life, it really happened.
He does not want me in his life anymore, and he has moved on to another. And thankfully, I have moved on as well.
It is only appropriate that the decade long journey should come to an end, although there is nothing else to bond us together, ever. There are no children, no keepsakes, no home, only memories and a cat.
And the cat is quite possibly the only thing that I have well and truly lost due to the separation.
I hope the new one will find it in his heart to adopt my child, and love him as his own. Unlikely, but there is always hope.
I have made a promise to myself and to the universe, that I will never abandon or leave behind another pet, I have made a promise to the cat that I will love and take care of him forever. But circumstances do not seem to permit the latter.
Coming back to the divorce, what have I learned from this experience? I have learned that relationships are hard work. Love alone does not suffice. Love is the major part, it trumps everything. But it can go wrong. There is no such thing as unconditional love when it comes to partners, husband and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends.
If we let things slide, sweep problems under the carpet, refuse to communicate or don't communicate our issues, needs, hopes and wants properly, things will go wrong. It is very basic, how to make a relationship work. Communication, respect, friendship (because you have to like being around each other), lust and of course, love. Of all these, only love can't be explained or elaborated.
I hope if I ever get married again it will be for real, and forever.
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